A 24-year-old woman has claimed that her boyfriend of over three years showed no excitement and gave her the silent treatment after she shared news of her U.S. student visa approval. She shared the story in a post on Reddit’s r/relationship_advice community. The woman said she had trusted her boyfriend with details about her visa application that she had not even shared with her friends yet.
According to her post, the incident took place one evening around 10 PM when she texted her boyfriend saying she had something important to tell him and asked if she could call. He said he was with his family and told her to let him know when he was free, so she stepped away to speak with her mother. When she returned about 30 minutes later, he had already texted asking where she had gone.
When she asked if she could call him, he asked her to just text the news instead. She did, and wrote, “My visa got approved.” According to the woman, his response was not a congratulations or any form of acknowledgment. Instead, he allegedly replied, “Is that why you’ve been busy?” and then went offline after she tried to explain that she had only been talking to her mother.
The situation escalated after she shared her visa news
The woman said she attempted to call him multiple times after he went offline, but he declined her calls repeatedly. When he finally picked up, she claimed he immediately began yelling at her, saying, “Why are you calling me now? Stop calling me on your terms.” She said she tried to ask why he was reacting the way he was, at which point he told her to “shut up” and hung up. Stories of partners reacting poorly to good news is not that uncommon.
She said she spent the rest of the night in tears and sent him a long message explaining how she felt. In the post, she said he responded by saying that she had not cared that he was waiting for her after she had said she had something important to tell him. When she tried to explain herself, he told her, “Don’t call or text me anymore,” and she said she stayed up until 4 AM sending him messages about how the situation had affected her.
In her post, the woman wrote, “I ended up crying all night, feeling alone and unloved when I should have been celebrating with my partner.” She also said, “If it were the other way around, I would have been over the moon happy for him,” adding that she had always supported him but that this kind of response was what she received “every single time” she needed support.
The woman also said she was beginning to notice a pattern in the relationship. She recalled that earlier in the year, the two had argued the day before her birthday, and on her birthday itself, he had not wished her. When she called him that day, she claimed he yelled at her that he did not want to talk.
She wrote in her post that important moments in her life seemed to consistently end up becoming centered around him instead. Some Reddit users who have uncovered troubling patterns in their relationships have shared similar experiences of doubt and suspicion building over time.
Several Reddit users who responded to her post encouraged her to end the relationship. One commenter wrote, “This is not the type of person you want to be in a relationship with. You need to put him in your rearview, grieve who you thought he was, heal and eventually move on.”
Another said, “You’re too old for this nonsense OP. This is how teenagers behave. Or controlling men. Have enough love and respect for yourself to end this and move on.” A third commenter wrote, “Of course he’s not happy about your visa. Your visa will let you escape his control.”
At the time of the post, the woman said she did not know how her boyfriend would respond once he saw her messages, but she indicated she expected him not to acknowledge how he had made her feel. “In his eyes, I am always the one at fault, no matter what the situation is,” she wrote. She said she was starting to resent him and was tired of being understanding and supportive without receiving the same in return.
Published: Jun 11, 2026 08:50 pm