NYC woman dumps date mid meal after he tells her something ‘funny’ – his big lie to her because ‘then you wouldn’t have come’

Everyone has their non-negotiables when it comes to dating. It could be something as basic as acceptable personal hygiene, all the way to a die-hard liberal refusing to even consider dating a Trump voter.

But NYC woman Amanda Martinez discovered that not even explicitly outlining a “no” in your profile seems to help. In an account reported by PEOPLE and sourced from her TikTok videos, Martinez took us through a date that appeared to be going fairly well.

Martinez and her date had already chatted on the phone, had an instant rapport, and with that essential spark present, had decided to get dinner together. She began to open up about her life, saying that her friend had just revealed she’s expecting her first baby.

“You can simply get up and leave.”

Then things shifted. Martinez told PEOPLE that, “He said he had something funny to tell me. Then he told me he had a child and just kept laughing about it.” She was “caught off guard” because her date had previously told her the exact opposite, that he didn’t have children and didn’t want them. As she explained:

“I specifically asked him if he had kids or wanted kids because that’s a hard no for me. He told me no.”

Her Hinge profile reportedly states clearly that she does not want kids. She says she always makes sure that before potentially wasting time and money on a date, she wants to know that the person she’ll be sizing up for romance is on the same page.

When she confronted him about it, she says he downplayed it, argued it “wasn’t that big of a deal” and said if he hadn’t lied “then you wouldn’t have come on this date.”

Martinez left the table, went to the bathroom and sat in a stall to “process her thoughts”: “I was really upset. I knew I’d never see him again because dating someone with children is a non-negotiable for me.”

And that was that. Martinez says she approached a waiter, paid her side of the check, told her date she was leaving and then did just that. “I was fed up. I was done sitting through bad dates, being disrespected, being lied to or having my boundaries pushed.” She says, “he was shocked,” she says. “He couldn’t believe I was leaving. But I didn’t care. I was over it.”

She later reflected on the experience, telling PEOPLE:

“Honesty is a deal breaker throughout any relationship, but especially in the beginning. I always say, if someone lies to you when they have nothing to lose, they’ll certainly lie when they have everything to lose.

It wasn’t about him having a child. It was about respecting my boundaries. I hope more women realize they don’t have to stay in situations where they’re being disrespected. You can simply get up and leave.”

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