Woman recalls alleged behavior her ex-husband displayed immediately after she gave birth, then says a nurse called him out: ‘That’s a first’

Abuse doesn’t just happen physically—that’s what this TikToker aimed to convey when she recounted the memory from the night before her youngest son’s birthday and described her ex-husband as abusive, according to her account. Kelsey Davis (@bluntblondekd) shared that her son asked her to tell him about the day he was born, so she chose to share only the positive memories. In the video, however, Davis said she “feels like the domestic violence was just going on just yesterday.”

Davis claims she went into labor after her stepfamily went bowling. She says she had two boys of her own, and her husband had two as well; at first, she didn’t realize what was happening. On the drive home, they stopped for milk, and her water reportedly broke at the checkout counter. She recalls asking the teenage cashier to finish ringing her up so she could take the milk home before heading to the hospital.

According to Davis, her then-husband allegedly insisted that only his two sons be present at the hospital, refusing to allow her own boys to come. She describes this as “a control thing,” adding that his kids “were always superior to mine.” Davis maintains that her sons were sent to stay with her aunt. She further claims that her husband’s ex-wife did not want his sons there, but that he allegedly ignored her wishes and had the boys sleep in chairs overnight.

Even the nurse was trying to keep her reaction to herself

After the birth, Davis says she wanted to shower and claims her her husband did not help her, but that a nurse assisted instead. She further alleges that “he’s grossed out by me.” By the time she finished her first postpartum shower, Davis says she was moving slowly and feeling worn out, while her husband reportedly lay in the recovery room’s bed.

Davis alleges that her husband told her he needed her to come over and “rub my feet” before she lay down. She claims a nurse checking on the baby witnessed the exchange, and Davis said the nurse gave her a look that said, “I gotta do this.” According to Davis, the nurse tried to contain her reaction, remarking, “That’s a first.” Her husband reportedly responded, “What? You’ve never seen a good wife cater to her husband?” The nurse replied, “No, that’s a first that I’ve ever seen a freshly postpartum mom who can barely stand or walk catering to her husband when he should be rubbing her feet.”

When the nurse brought the baby over to feed, she gave her another look and asked her not to “make a scene.” Although it’s been eight years since that abuse happened, Davis said that the trauma “never really leaves.”

Abuse can also occur during the postpartum period. According to the CDC, about 6% of people with a recent live birth experienced emotional, physical, or sexual violence during pregnancy by a current intimate partner. This abuse may include physical violence, stalking, psychological aggression, reproductive coercion, or sexual violence. A study published in BMJ Health found that postpartum depression was significantly more prevalent among women who experienced mistreatment during childbirth.

Comments on Davis’s TikTok post were filled with an outpouring of relief and support. “The pain in your face makes me sad. I’m so sorry you experienced that,” one commenter said. Another user wrote, “I’m so thankful you said ex husband!” A third commenter emphasized, “this is why it’s so important the man you pick to have children with.”