A TikTok user named Estella (@est.ellita) created a huge controversy online after she decided to propose to her boyfriend of 14 years. Usually, men are the ones who propose, but Estella chose to do it herself. Her decision started a big debate about gender roles and how much effort people should put into relationships.
According to Bro Bible, the drama began when Estella posted a TikTok video the night before she planned to propose. The video went viral and got 8.6 million views. She knew people would criticize her, saying at the start, “And I know what everybody’s gonna think, and I already know what everybody’s gonna say. But honestly, I don’t even care.”
Estella explained why she made this choice. She said 14 years is a long time to wait, and she really wants to get married. She loves him deeply and knows he wants to spend his life with her because he tells her that all the time. She asked, “We’re in love even after this long, so why not?” She felt she had to take action to move their relationship forward.
The internet thinks he should have proposed years ago
But the internet had many reasons why she shouldn’t propose. The comment section filled up with the same message: if he wanted to marry her, he would have already done it. Many people felt sad for Estella, saying she was practically begging for commitment after more than 10 years together. This situation echoes other relationship red flags, similar to cases where boyfriends act suspicious during searches for their missing partners.
The reactions were harsh. One person wrote that he hasn’t proposed because “HE DOESN’T WANT TO.” Another quoted Estella saying she wants marriage and replied, “Well, does HE?!” People weren’t just upset about breaking tradition. They were upset about his lack of effort. One person said men will do anything for the woman they truly want. They told Estella to ask for the ring, the house, or whatever she wants, and if he loves her, he will make it happen.
Estella also said she planned to ask her boyfriend’s father for his blessing before proposing. People were strongly against this idea. One viewer jokingly said, “Girl, please go live when you ask his dad for his blessing. I have to see that.”
She later deleted the original video and posted a follow-up clip on TikTok, showing the moment she proposed to her boyfriend. This time, she decided to disable the comment section.
Other popular TikTokers also shared their opinions about Estella’s video. Danisha Carter, a well-known creator, said that even though she’s progressive, people need to be honest about how men and women behave in relationships. Carter believes men know what to do when they want to stay in a relationship forever.
She said that after 14 years, if Estella told him she wants to get married and he hasn’t proposed, she shouldn’t propose to him. Instead, she should “find somebody else.” Her advice mirrors concerns seen in other troubling relationship stories, like when ex-boyfriends are found hiding things from their partners.
Despite millions of views and strong reactions online, Estella went ahead with her plan. She posted another video showing the moment she proposed to her boyfriend. That video got 2.3 million views. However, Estella turned off the comments on that video, which says a lot after all the criticism she received.
Published: Dec 4, 2025 12:37 pm