Disabled TikToker dies live on stream, but what comments told her to do may be the real cause

Warning: The article talks about suicide. Please proceed with caution.

A creator known as Rizzi, or @SincerelyNaija, tragically died by suicide during a live stream over the weekend, immediately igniting horrifying accusations that she was intensely bullied and encouraged to take her own life by other users. This incident has caused widespread grief and shock across TikTok, forcing difficult conversations about how disabled people are treated online, even within their own communities.

Rizzi was reportedly staying in a mental health facility when the live event occurred. Multiple witnesses who were online at the time claim that other high-profile users were actively making fun of and taunting Rizzi just before she passed away. Her account has since been deleted from the platform, according to Daily Dot.

The firestorm quickly focused on the dynamics of what’s known as “MessyTok.” If you’re unfamiliar, MessyTok originally started trending around 2020 as a hashtag for folks to expose cheating partners. However, it quickly expanded to include any content that involves deep, personal drama, prioritizing conflict above all else. Many users argue that this type of environment easily devolves into relentless bullying, leading to suicide.

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Witness accounts paint a truly disturbing picture of the incident. They claim that multiple people participating in the livestream were picking on Rizzi, allegedly targeting her disabilities and actually encouraging her to commit suicide. This is awful, and it’s a terrifying look at the unchecked cruelty that can happen online.

An online petition summarizing the event details the severity of the attacks. It states, “They mocked her, they made fun of her disabilities, and in the deepest cruelty, they told her to kill herself.” The petition continues, pointing out that this “relentless bullying and cyber attacks led to a devastating loss.”

As users sought to assign blame beyond the general community dynamic, specific names emerged, primarily pointing fingers at the live event facilitators, including accounts like @heartbreakerrrr_0 and @nosybystanders.

One summary creator, @littlescarystories, claimed that Rizzi named three individuals before her death: “Candy, Heartbreaker, and a therapist who [sexually assaulted] her.”

However, many others pointed to @nosybystanders, often called Nosy, due to her massive platform of over 800,000 followers. Some accounts claimed Nosy participated in the bullying, noting that she had previously interviewed Rizzi.

Nosy posted a video denying any culpability and announced she would be taking an indefinite break from the platform. She pushed back against the accusations, saying, “Somehow, there is a narrative being shaped that she was being cyberbullied by me.” She clarified that she had only interviewed Rizzi once and called the spread of such narratives regarding someone’s passing “just absolutely dangerous.”

Disability justice advocate Imani Barbarin (@crutches_and_spice) addressed a larger, painful issue within the disabled community itself. She suggested that some of those who targeted Rizzi may have been disabled. She spoke frankly about the self-hatred that exists in these spaces, leading some disabled people to act as “the conduit through which non-disabled people get to abuse disabled people to death.” There should have been some kind of suicide watch if she was feeling like there was no escape.

Barbarin added that this internal conflict is often linked to disabled people denying their limitations or acting as though they’ve “risen above” them. She concluded, “So no, it does not surprise me that a disabled person getting treatment in a mental health facility for that disability committed suicide at the hands and the actions, in part, of another disabled person.” This highlights that the cruelty Rizzi faced wasn’t just external; it involved deeply complex, internal community dynamics.