Texas woman says she declined a man’s offer to record her golfing. Apparently, he didn’t have the ability to understand a simple ‘no’

A Texas woman shared a video on TikTok describing an experience at a golf driving range where a man allegedly recorded her and continued watching her after she had already turned down his offer and asked him to stop. The video, posted by TikTok creator Monique Elizabeth (@monique_elizabeth), has drawn widespread attention and comments from viewers who say they related to the experience.

In the on-screen text of the video, Monique Elizabeth wrote that she was not initially going to post the footage, but said she felt compelled to after the incident. The video shows her practicing at the driving range while capturing what she says happened during that session.

According to the video, a man approached her and asked, “Would you like me to take a picture of you from – a video of you from the face view?” She declined, saying, “I’m okay, thank you.” The man responded, “Oh, all right.”

The man allegedly kept watching her and moved in front of her camera to record her after she had already declined his offer

According to Monique Elizabeth’s on-screen text in the video, the man then walked behind her camera and stood there staring at her. She noted that he had allegedly walked all the way across the range to do this. She continued practicing and, per the on-screen text, appeared to be deliberately avoiding conversation with him.

The man then asked her, “Have you been golfing for very long?” She did not respond. The on-screen text at that point read, “I’m obviously avoiding conversation,” followed by “…still just watching…”

At some point during the session, the man apparently moved in front of her camera and began recording her, according to the on-screen text. This apparently happened despite her having already turned down his earlier offer to record her and despite her attempts to avoid engaging with him.

She then directly addressed the man, asking him, “Can you please not do that?” He responded, “Really? Makes you nervous?” She replied, “No, I just don’t want to be bothered. I didn’t ask for help.” The man then said, “All right, thank you.” In similar situations where women have had to deal with unwanted male attention in public spaces, the behavior has often escalated before bystanders or staff intervened. 

In the caption of the video, Monique Elizabeth wrote that the man ended up moving a few feet away but continued watching her. She said she eventually gave up and handed her remaining golf balls to a young boy and his father, who were practicing nearby. “PSA to men: Women don’t come here looking for help. If we want help, we’ll ask. Recording and taking pictures without permission is creepy. I feel like we shouldn’t have to explain this… yet here we are. Respectfully, leave us alone,” she wrote. 

In the comments section, viewers responded to the video. One woman wrote, “I’ve learned to wear headphones and act like I can’t hear them. I even swapped from AirPods to big beat headphones and I haven’t been bothered as much. It’s so frustrating.” 

Another commented, “I thought you were overreacting but actually you absolutely didn’t. You handled this so well hehe.” A third wrote, “I can see how uncomfortable you are, I’m so sorry.” Similar experiences at golf ranges and courses have been reported by other women. A Reddit post in the r/womengolf community, in which a woman described a similar experience of being approached and watched by a man at a range. 

“Do they not understand how annoying that is?” she wrote. In the comments of that post, some women said they respond by wearing earbuds and pretending not to hear. One wrote that her go-to response is, “I don’t remember paying you for a lesson.” Staff stepping in to support women in these uncomfortable situations can make a real difference, as seen when bartenders intervened to help a woman being bothered by a persistent man at a bar