A man thought he had left a difficult relationship behind nearly a decade ago after helping his former girlfriend find somewhere to stay. However, an unexpected message from the woman recently brought back memories he would rather forget, as claimed in his updated Reddit post. The man claimed that he first met the woman, whom he called Kara, on Tinder when he was 22 and living in San Antonio, Texas, in 2017.
According to his original Reddit post, Kara had recently moved from Orlando and was staying on a friend’s couch while searching for a job. The two apparently quickly became close, and he even helped her find work. However, she allegedly began talking about marriage after knowing him for just three weeks, and showed him a Pinterest board filled with ideas for their supposed “‘dream wedding’— complete with rings, locations, dates, and themes at Disney.” When he expressed concerns about how quickly their relationship was progressing, Kara reportedly left.
Their relationship ended shortly afterward, but the situation wasn’t quite over. Two months later, she apparently contacted him late at night, asking him to rescue her from another boyfriend’s house. She claimed the man had promised her a wealthy lifestyle but instead kept her in poor living conditions and restricted her access to her phone.
She apparently didn’t leave him alone
The user seemingly brought her back to San Antonio and allowed her to stay temporarily before helping her seek admission to a homeless shelter. However, she apparently didn’t meet the requirements for its indoor accommodation and eventually received a bus ticket back to Orlando from a volunteer.
The man explained that she allegedly showed up at his home uninvited three months later, forcing his roommate to pretend he no longer lived there. He eventually moved and blocked her everywhere. For years, he reportedly heard nothing from her and eventually got married and moved multiple times.
That apparently changed when he recently received a message request from an unfamiliar social media account. The sender turned out to be Kara, who allegedly wrote, “I’ve been looking for you for a long time.” She also apparently complimented his wife and asked, “Do you ever think about me? I think about you every day.”
The user said he immediately took screenshots, blocked the account, and showed the messages to his wife. He didn’t respond, and reportedly, the following day, an old acquaintance contacted him to ask whether he had previously dated someone named Kara. Apparently, the acquaintance had recently become friends with her, and she recognized him in an old photograph.
What troubled the user most was learning that Kara had apparently been trying to locate him for years. Given her previous uninvited visit to his home, he seemingly decided not to dismiss the situation as an awkward attempt to reconnect. “I’ve reported the account, contacted the police, and documented everything. My wife and I have also locked down our social media. We are safe,” the post read.
The Texas Attorney General’s Office advises people experiencing stalking to preserve messages, record incidents, identify witnesses, and report unwanted contact to law enforcement. This closely mirrors the Redditor’s decision to screenshot Kara’s messages, contact police, and alert people around him.
Under the Texas Penal Code, stalking can become a third-degree felony when someone knowingly engages in a repeated course of conduct directed at another person that meets the statute’s harassment or threatening-conduct requirements and would cause a reasonable person to feel harassed, intimidated, or alarmed. The law can apply to conduct involving former partners, acquaintances, and other people the victim knows.
Published: Nov 12, 2026 03:30 pm