A Reddit user is currently at a major crossroads after discovering that his former partner’s new boyfriend is seeing someone else, and he is trying to decide if he should break his silence, the Daily Dot reported. The post, which appeared on r/BoyDinnerDiaries, has already pulled in over 9,800 upvotes and 914 comments from people weighing in on the awkward situation.
The poster shared that his girlfriend of seven years ended their relationship for a co-worker during what he described as “probably the darkest time of my life.” He noted that the breakup was so severe that it was “literally almost taking my life three separate times.” Since then, he has been working on his own recovery by hitting the gym and focusing on his mental health. Even though he mentioned he is “doing all the steps to maintain my mental health,” he admitted that the situation still hurts.
The conflict started recently while he was watching football with some friends. A photo of his ex and her new partner popped up on Snapchat, and a friend sitting nearby mentioned that the guy in the photo was “actively hooking up” with someone else. This revelation left the poster feeling torn. He wrote, “My heart broke for my ex and now I’m conflicted,” before asking the community, “Do I say anything? Is it any of my business? Why should I even care?”
The community response has been pretty direct
One commenter who has been through a similar experience advised him to cut ties completely. “OP, I’ve been where you are,” they wrote. “You want to stop hurting? Get rid of all the connections, all the mementos, everything.” They pushed him to pack away anything he couldn’t get rid of, adding, “She f—– you over, don’t have anything to do with her. Please.”
Just Found Out That The Man My Ex Left Me For Is Cheating On Her.
by u/VillainousGrizzly in BoyDinnerDiaries
Another user shared their own method for moving on, noting that they had blocked their ex on every possible platform. “I literally just blocked him on EVERYTHING,” they wrote, which included his mother, his roommate, and every app. They found that level of separation to be incredibly freeing. “It was honestly so liberating knowing I wasn’t going to scroll past a pic of him,” they explained.
Some of the advice focused on the poster’s current boundaries and how he should handle the information he received. One commenter suggested that he should prioritize his own peace rather than getting involved in his ex’s life. “Respect the person you are currently seeing by not inserting yourself into drama regarding your ex,” they wrote.
However, they did offer a different angle on the situation by suggesting that he might want to handle the information differently. They wrote, “But maybe let that friend of yours know that the dude she is hooking up with is not single.”
It is worth noting that the details of these relationships, the alleged infidelity, and the events described in the post remain unverified. The poster did not provide names for the ex, her partner, or the friend involved, and it is impossible to confirm if the partner is actually seeing someone else.
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Published: Sep 29, 2026 04:06 pm