‘Message received’: Woman says her favorite part of dating is the day they suddenly turn cold

Dating often feels like a long, drawn-out process, but one creator has found joy in the moment things fall apart. The creator, known as @emlegssssss, said in a TikTok video that her favorite part of dating someone new is the day they suddenly decide they hate her. She calls it switch up day.

She claims she came up with the name herself, as she wanted a way to describe that abrupt transition from interest to hostility. “It’s invigorating. It’s like an IV straight to the vein,” the creator said, describing the rush of switch up day as remarkably intense.

The creator compared realizing it is switch up day to finding out that Santa is not real. However, the discovery does not seem to bother her, as she finds the acting needed to maintain a facade of interest impressive in a dark way. “You’ve hated me this whole time? Like you’ve been faking it? A magician,” she added.

She thinks the person deserves their own sold-out Vegas show

She took the joke further, suggesting the performance belonged on a stage. “We should get you a whole Vegas show for that production. Like that production you just put on. Put you on a stage in Vegas. You’d sell out. It’s that convincing,” she said. The bit targets how people hide their true feelings until they decide not to anymore.

The timeline seems to be part of what makes a switch-up day so jarring for her. The person involved checked in on her well-being just a day earlier, only to flip their behavior entirely. However, she claims not to be upset by it and prefers to lean into the sudden end of the connection.

She treats each switch-up day as a cue to exit rather than a fight to win, and she even agrees with the verdict. “I hate me too. We can just drop this up to, like, I’ll see myself out. Message received. Received so well. My favorite day,” she said. She concluded by comparing switch up day to the Fourth of July and its fireworks, as the ending arrives loud and leaves no room for confusion.

Many commenters agreed with the creator, and some even shared their own experiences. One commenter said, “it’s always on a random Tuesday too.” One commenter also said, “Unfortunately, I’m a confrontational person so this doesn’t go well for me.”