Bartender opens a disturbingly long one-night stand message from a regular. She immediately knows this isn’t normal: ‘never told him anything about myself’

A bartender who posts on TikTok as Omgwheresmymom said she scrolled back through an old message request. It came from a man she barely knew. The note had sat unread for almost two months.

The sender introduced himself as “Daniel from karaoke.” The man said he was stepping away from the bar for a few months and wanted to tell her what he was thinking before he left.

The message said he could “absolutely fall in love” with her. He could picture spending his life with her. Then he undercut his own line. He told her not to “get too full of yourself,” saying that he had told three or four other women the same thing. He also said his one-night stands the previous year stayed casual because he would not date someone he did not genuinely like.

His message only got more personal from there

Her looks, according to the message, were not the main draw. What stood out to him, he wrote, was how she pushed back when he called her a “barmaid.” The man wrote he likes women who speak their minds and called quiet women “boring.” He also mentioned that she plays soccer, hikes, and golfs, and called her “a top shelf catch.” Customers can also mistake a bartender’s friendliness for flirting, as one server previously explained after a woman accused her of flirting with her “toad of a man.”

He also described himself at length, calling himself thin, quiet, and financially secure. He claimed his family had “generational wealth” and wrote that he had a “heart of gold” and a “spirit of light.”

The message acknowledged that she had a partner and claimed to respect the relationship. Her partner, he wrote, was not “a bum or cheater.” He added that he probably would not see her again soon anyway.

The message ended with “peace.” A separate text, dated July 4, followed. It simply asked if she was watching the World Cup.

In a caption posted with the video, the bartender explained just how little contact the two had actually had. “And I’ve never told him anything about myself,” she wrote. She said they had spoken maybe twice, for about a minute total. She added she has since left that bartending job for a role in fine dining. Regulars can sometimes get too comfortable with bartenders, as another server’s experience shows. 

Reactions in the comments ranged from worried to sarcastic. One person wrote, “Babe pls protect yourself when ur walking to ur car after shifts… If he has a wife i would dm her.” Another zeroed in on the “don’t get full of yourself” line, calling it “insane” on its own. A third quoted the message back at him: “‘There’s currently 3 to 4 girls I said the same thing to’ go get them then king.”