A TikTok creator says she went against a rule she had set for herself when she agreed to see a male gynecologist for the first time. The video was posted by Avery, who goes by @averyncmm on TikTok and has 80.8K followers on the platform.
In the video, on-screen text reads, “my first experience with a male OBGYN.” Avery is seen sitting on a bed with a teal blanket, speaking to the camera and holding a small object in her hand as she talks.
Avery explained that she had always refused to see a male gynecologist. “This is something that I vowed I would not do. I was like, no, I will never see a man. Why does a man want to be a gynecologist?” she said.
Creator explains why she made an exception for the appointment
Avery said she needed an appointment quickly, and the only doctor available at the time was her mother’s OBGYN. According to Avery, her mother had recommended him for years. “She’s like weirdly obsessed with him,” Avery said, adding that her mother “always has for my whole life has told me how amazing he is.” Because of this, Avery decided to book the appointment, saying, “fine, he seems safe, I’ll go.”
Avery said the visit turned out better than she expected. “Can I say, honestly, that was one of the best female doctor experiences that I have had,” she said. She mentioned that she has endometriosis and has given birth, and that she went to this appointment because of cycle irregularities and other symptoms. Unusual or unexplained physical symptoms have led other patients to strange diagnoses, including one woman who mistook her stomach pain for a heart attack.
She also compared this visit to earlier appointments with female doctors. Avery said that during a past visit, while she was suffering from severe endometriosis pain that had not yet been diagnosed, a doctor dismissed her symptoms. “This one lady, her eyes were going in two different directions,” Avery said, describing the appointment. She recalled telling the doctor she was “throwing up” and “passing out every month,” and that the doctor responded, “everyone cramps.”
Avery said her experience with the male OBGYN was different. She said she explained all of her symptoms to him and did not feel dismissed. “I was never – I was not gaslit at all. I was completely believed,” she said.
According to Avery, the doctor also drew her a chart during the appointment. “He drew me a chart. I’m obsessed with him,” she said. She explained that the chart compared “what a normal person does versus what he hypothesizes my body’s doing hormone-wise.” Other patients have also shared unusual moments from their own doctor visits, including one man who described a strange exchange with his doctor during treatment.
Avery said she may share more details about her symptoms and diagnosis process in a future video, but did not go into further detail in this post.
The video drew a range of responses from viewers, with several sharing their own experiences with male gynecologists. One commenter described a location-based frustration, writing, “OK, so I’m originally from Rapid City, South Dakota and down there we have all female doctors, but I moved to Utah and we only have mail Obgyn. The only female we have that Obgyn or midwives and Doula I don’t like the fact that men in Utah or Obgyn.”
Other commenters shared more positive experiences that echoed Avery’s story. One viewer wrote, “My male ob is great! He’s very professional and he found my endo after about 10 years of female obs telling me I just had a ‘heavy flow and painful period’… one look at me and he scheduled a laparoscopy and found my endo!”
Another commenter shared a similar sentiment about a male provider, writing, “I never had a male obgyn. But I had an ultrasound done on my lady parts by a man 3x before having surgery. And he was literally so gentle and respectful. Usually it’s uncomfortable to me, so definitely don’t judge a book by its cover!”
One commenter offered a theory on why some patients report different experiences with male and female gynecologists, while noting it was a personal opinion.
They wrote: “I imagine that a woman gyno could possibly have a very different experience of being a woman and the problems they experience. Perhaps the gyno had a very minor case of endo, and as a result she might discount your pain by drawing on her own experience. Whereas a male gyno cannot draw on his experience directly, so they typically make up for it with higher levels of empathy. This is my opinion based on anecdotal accounts and should not be taken as a fact.”
Published: Aug 3, 2026 04:14 am