Woman goes on one date. Then the man allegedly appears at her house with a suitcase: ‘why you would think for a second’

A TikTok user who posts as Ember Spies shared a video in which a man appeared at her apartment door with a suitcase after what on-screen text described as one date. She captioned the clip, “wtf! I would definitely prefer to be by myself at this point!” The video had gained 610,000 views, 14,100 likes, and more than 900 comments, at the time of writing.

Although there was no disclaimer, the interaction appeared to have been staged. The videos on the profile seem to feature the same people. On-screen text set the scene as “POV: went on ONE date with this guy and he showed up thinking he was going to move into my house.” The footage showed Ember filming from inside her apartment as the man stood outside holding a suitcase.

She asked, “Are you trying to move into my house?” He answered, “Hey! What are you doing? I wanted to see if I could come in for a few days.” When she asked what he meant, he said they had such a good time on their date and that she had said she was single.

Video overlay names the visitor and shows a listed charge

He added that she had been single for a while and asked if she needed a roommate. She repeated, “Are you trying to move into my house?” He called that “a bit of a statement” and said he thought he could stay a few days.

Ember told him, “Uh, no, no, I have no idea why you’re here or why you would think for a second that, um, you were gonna move into my house.” The man then asked whether she got tired of being by herself. Such boundary-crossing behavior has been reported elsewhere, like when a Michigan ring camera allegedly showed a man outside a single mom’s house after she canceled a date.

She replied, “I mean, I’d rather be by myself than have some creepy guy that thinks he’s gonna move in come into my house.” In the video, his expression appeared to shift from smiling to a more serious look.

While she spoke, an overlay appeared that looked like a phone screen for “WhoThis.com.” It showed a biometric scan of the man’s face, a search across “the Entire Web 3.0,” and a “100% match” for “Steven Clint” with a mugshot.

The overlay listed “US CRIMINAL RECORDS” and a charge of “Disorderly conduct in a public setting to a woman at a restaurant,” with a last updated date of May 12, 2023. Additional on-screen text said she used the website and “found out his past and that he is a total CREEP.”

There’s no one-size-fits-all timeframe for moving in with a partner. But MindBodyGreen notes that experts generally recommend taking that step only after having a clear conversation about the future and making sure both partners are on the same page.

“The right time is when you are both in agreement that you want to take your relationship to the next level,” the outlet quotes therapist, marriage coach, and relationship expert Lesli Doares. “You’ve talked about what living together means. You both feel comfortable with the agreement and can commit to abiding by it,” she added.

Commenters focused on how the man knew where she lived after one date and on what they said she should do next. One commenter wrote, “Please! Why would anyone talk, let alone date him…” Another asked, “Was it a blind date or?” A third wrote, “Slam the door, call the cops.”

Other commenters called the visit a red flag. One wrote, “Why he know where you live after just one date.” Another said, “get a restraining order on him. then move someplace else. he WILL be a problem later on.” Alarming boundary-crossing after a first date has occurred in other incidents, like when a man followed a woman home and returned the next morning.