If you’re tired of endless swiping, dealing with ghosting, and feeling frustrated by the typical dating pool, one TikToker just revealed the ultimate strategy for finding a partner who isn’t broke: ditch the dating apps and head straight to a charity gala.
This brilliant piece of advice came straight from the most unexpected source: a therapy session. TikToker Annalise (@annalisesara) recently recounted her dating struggles to her therapist. She confessed, “Listen, I’m getting the feeling that I’m cooked. I’m getting the feeling that I may be single forever.”
The dating app experience can be brutal. Annalise admitted she had tried Hinge but was recently ghosted. She also tried meeting men through friends, but hadn’t found anyone she clicked with. Feeling invasive but determined, Annalise decided to ask her therapist a deeply personal question. She asked, “How did you meet your husband?” The answer completely changed her perspective on where to search for a meaningful connection, and it wasn’t ChatGPT.
Who you surround yourself with becomes your future
The therapist told Annalise she had met her spouse at a charity event. This isn’t just about finding love, though; it’s about finding a specific type of partner. Annalise recalled the therapist’s rationale, which is honestly top-tier advice for anyone looking for a financially secure and altruistic partner. “She was like, ‘You need to go to like galas and charity events because you’re not going to find any broke men there. These are very sophisticated, educated men that want to help change the world,’” the TikToker explained.
This strategy is all about accessing a different social network entirely. We’re talking about finding men who aren’t just looking for a casual swipe, but who are actively engaged in philanthropy and have the means to attend high-end functions. Annalise says she plans to take the advice and attend a gala soon, which is a big commitment but could seriously pay off.
Of course, access to this elite dating pool comes with a cost. Tickets for these charity events can range dramatically, running from a couple of hundred dollars for local gatherings to tens of thousands for major events like the Met Gala. While the ticket sales primarily cover the event costs and a small donation portion, you’re essentially paying for highly curated access. This is a huge investment, but if it gets you out of the ghosting cycle, it might be worth it.
The public reaction to Annalise’s revelation was immediate and hilarious. Many viewers pointed out that Annalise, who has dark hair and blue eyes and has been compared to actress Megan Fox, shouldn’t be struggling with dating at all. One viewer joked, “If even Megan Fox is struggling, you know the dating scene is bad.” Another commenter perfectly summed up the collective anxiety of modern dating, writing, “If you’re cooked.. we’re all cooked.”
Published: Nov 13, 2025 03:48 pm