‘You knew it was my year’: Woman is upset that her bridesmaid got pregnant without consulting her, so she allegedly tries to ruin the baby shower

When major life events collide, change can be inevitable. Right now, Brandon Robert and his wife, Maddie, are dealing with one such situation, where Maddie’s pregnancy and a friend’s wedding have kicked up a confrontation. The couple shares vlogs about their life on Instagram and TikTok, and lately, their friend group has been a source of serious drama. The latest flashpoint came with the alleged revelation that Emily is unhappy with Maddie’s pregnancy. 

In two videos, Brandon and Maddie shared the phone calls and messages around this argument. In the first post, they called her because they had heard a rumor that she was complaining about them. Over the call, one comment stuck with Brandon, so he highlighted it. It should be noted that this is only Brandon and Maddie’s account of events, and Emily’s side of the story isn’t available. On the call, Emily says, “I didn’t spend this much money on a bachelorette party for someone to be sober in the corner. If you respected me as a friend, you wouldn’t have gotten pregnant.”

Maddie was taken aback. When she asked if Emily was upset about the pregnancy announcement, Emily responded, “You knew it was my year. I just feel like you guys made a very personal decision without considering the group.” Maddie’s reaction was one of total disbelief, telling Emily, “I don’t care if you’re getting married, if I’m being honest. This is insane.”

According to Emily, she was just setting her boundaries as a bride

On the call, Emily continued to press the issue of her bachelorette party, suggesting that major life announcements should be planned around bridal events. She told Maddie, “I’m not the only one who feels this way. Other people have major life things going on, and it just feels like you’re taking the spotlight away from literally everybody.” Brandon eventually stepped in, saying, “I am making the executive decision as the husband that she’s not going to be going.”

The viewers were extremely confused, too. One TikTok user noted, “It’s my year NO. It’s a wedding DAY. You get a DAY!” Another commenter added, “Say it with me; you do not need alcohol to have a good time!!” People from both platforms seemed to side with Maddie, with one Instagram user pointing out, “With friends like that… who needs enemies.”

Bridezillas can be different but are also alike. In one case, a Redditor exposed that a bride sent a list of strict rules and a demand for $5K for the perfect wedding. In another, a bride stormed up to her baker on the wedding day and insisted the cake wasn’t as ordered. She then refused to pay.

In a follow-up video, things got worse. We learn that at some point, the couple had blocked Emily, so they didn’t realize she had planned revenge. They only learned of what was happening when a friend reached out to them with an update. She sent them a voice note. 

The friend said, “You are not gonna believe this. So you remember when Emily sent us a text a few months ago, just giving us a heads up that she’s gonna have her shower September 19th.  Well, I just got an invitation in the mail.  She moved it to October 4th, the same day and time as your baby shower. Obviously, I’m going to yours. Everyone’s gonna have to pick between you two. The people are already picking sides.” 

Maddie told Brandon that Emily had even put the guests in a group chat. Brandon noted in disbelief that now, “At least 20 people know they have to pick now.” The community echoed their disbelief, and one TikToker came through with advice. “The rule is: If someone makes you pick between them and someone else, you ALWAYS pick the one who did not make you pick. We do not reward toxic behavior.”

According to Healthline, it’s common to lose friends during a big life event. Pregnancies, for instance, reveal the friends who might see you differently. The article notes that sometimes, it is because they feel you can no longer participate in the same activities, like drinking or partying.

The site suggests that it is okay to acknowledge these feelings of hurt and loneliness. It advises practicing forgiveness and understanding that sometimes people just don’t know how to handle the change. Instead, Healthline encourages focusing on the friends who stick around. 

As the writer states, “Losing those I thought would be there forever has given me perspective on who I currently have in my life. It’s made me appreciate the people who’ve stuck around and not left my side.”

As one Instagram user advised Brandon and Maddie, “I’m begging u throw those friends out and get new ones, especially during a pregnancy last thing you need or want is high cortisol and high stress levels. Your baby is way more important than some wedding.”