Reddit user asks if she was wrong for confronting her ex-boyfriend’s new girlfriend at a convention

A new post has gone viral on the popular Reddit forum r/AITA, short for Am I the A**hole, where people lay out their pettiest disasters and personal disputes and ask the internet to render a verdict. It’s known as a regular source of internet drama, and a place where some of the craziest stories you’ll hear online are told.

The original poster is a 22-year-old woman, asking if humiliating her ex’s new girlfriend in front of the entire friend group was justified.

The OP and her ex split amicably eight months ago, an unremarkable event except that they share a friend group. After the breakup, the OP went to therapy and hit the gym, and she was eating better. Everyone around her said that she looked happier and more confident.

Now, the OP is a self-described “huge nerd,” having poured thousands of hours into Stellaris, not to mention weekly D&D nights on top of cosplay attempts. Her latest project — a Viper-and-Chamber costume from Valorant — took her six months to finish. 

The saga started when she dropped a preview of her costume in the group chat, and her ex immediately DM’d her asking to please not wear it because it might make his new girlfriend uncomfortable. She decided to wear it anyway.

The con went well enough, unless you count the new girlfriend reportedly spending the entire day lobbing snide remarks and laughing whenever someone asked the OP to pose for a photo, while the rest of the group tried to steer clear of the two.

When everyone had had enough

She wrote that the girlfriend made repeated remarks toward her over the course of the day. The exchange escalated at a post-convention dinner, she said, when another friend asked the girlfriend whether she would consider trying cosplay herself. The user quoted the girlfriend as replying, “Why would I need more attention from guys? I already have a boyfriend. I’m not a sl*t.”

The user said she responded by telling the girlfriend to “stop acting like a pick-me b**ch.” According to the post, the girlfriend then began to cry, the ex-boyfriend asked the user to apologize, and several other members of the group were drawn into what she described as a “screaming match.”

She added that her ex-boyfriend has since threatened to leave the friend group unless she apologizes. The post closes with the user asking the forum to weigh in on whether she was in the wrong.